Recently during a grown-up conversation among men and women a universal truth surfaced. Men can date women who work at McDonald's but women can't date men who work there. Women need a man that makes more than they do. Hmmm...is this true? Fellas, ladies, please I need your input!
In My Opinion
I wouldn't say that I am a hugely successful career woman. However, I do have a career and I can support myself without any help from a man. I'm not sure what you would call that...independent maybe? My honey can make whateva, as long as he IS in fact working. Now there is a minimum here. I want him to make at least my salary or more. I'm a teacher, so I don't think that is too much to ask. I have dated guys who were blue collar workers. I actually like when a man is skilled at something, especially fixing cars or carpentry. I will always feel confident that he can either keep my car in good shape or make priceless additions to our love nest, ie. hardwood deck, tree house, etc. Hope this doesn't sound as selfish as it reads! Now, I know there are some Sistas out there who have higher expectations and I don't think there is anything wrong with that.
Mans' Opinion
There were several Fellas who stated that career women were hard to be with. Huh? Yeah, I had the same reaction. According to some guys they feel that if we are successful that they can't be with us. Why? I'm not sure. Something about us being picky and making them feel as though they couldn't measure up...literally. Well, I thought this was a very harsh statement. Why would a man have a problem with a woman who was successful in her career? The conversation then went on to say that men can date women who work at McDonald's but a woman cannot date a man who works there.
Could You Date a McDonald's Man
Now, I think the Fellas had a point with the McDonald's man thing. If I worked at McDonald's I would date a McDonald's manager. However, that's as far as I would go. I am a teacher therefore, I would date a man who owned a McDonald's. I don't think this is superficial of me, I just think that people should have some sort of expectation about finances.
1 Timothy 5:8 says, If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
Obviously men are responsible for their families and how can a man be responsible if he doesn't make a decent salary? Whatever the woman decides is decent is up to her. Let's just say that for guys, ladies you better not make too much. What do you think?
I would date him if he's a manager. No offense, but I would like his salary to be somewhat close to mine.
ReplyDeleteI would date a McDonald's manager, district manager but the fry guy....Ummmm I don't know about that. As a single, successful woman who has her own things, I wonder if the fry guy can really hold it down on his own. Does he have his own place, etc. I want someone who is working towards a better life so that we can build together.
ReplyDeleteTia, o.k. what if he was a fry guy but in school earning his doctorate?
ReplyDelete@ Tera, same question...what if he was in school? What if he was oh so fine?
ReplyDeleteI am not even going to front, I would probably reconsider because it is obvious that he is striving towards a better life. I have to respect that.
ReplyDeleteAndrew Lanier October 25 at 10:31pm
ReplyDeleteBut here's my take on the situation. I would (and have) dated McDonald's employees in my post-Winthrop career. It depends on their character and life goals, more than where they work at. Of course I have standards, but I'm pretty regular and down to earth. I come from humble, blue-collar beginnings myself, folks working in cotton mills, textiles, and fast food. It really depends on what the woman is working towards in her future. Is she going to school? Does she want to start her own business? I can see you wanting to date someone that's a manager at Mickey Ds. I want a woman with a life plan that may or may not include McDonalds. She has to be bettering herself in every way including financially. If she's still working there 3-4 years down the road with no plans of advancing her education or finding a different job, there's a problem. Folks get into a rough patch, so you cannot judge them based on their current job until you analyze the situation. Also, I know what you mean walkingyourdestiny, but you may also want to specify what education level the man/woman is at, and is this their primary job. MANY folks in this economy work at McDonalds on the side, and I know some of our WU classmates that either currently do or have had to work fast-food at some point to make ends meet. Good topic and I will edit and post this message when I'm able!
I totally agree with Tia!
ReplyDeleteUpon initial attraction to person, I don't ask them about their place of employment. Usually that doesn't come out until we're on the date. I've seen some women in McDonald's uniforms that can get the business. I'm a firm a believer that you can't help who you fall in love with. The chemistry you develop with an individual should not be dictated by a person's source of income.
ReplyDeleteMy question is why does it matter if a person works at McDonalds? At least the brother/sister has a job. The economy has crippled the spirits of many successful individuals.
This is true Letroy...you can't help who you fall in love with. However, if your daughter came home and said she was in love with a McDonald's employee and they were getting married what would you say then?
ReplyDeleteAs long as she is happy I would support them.
ReplyDeleteSo would you date a porno star? They make good money? I just think individuals fall in love for the wrong reasons. That might explain the high divorce rates in this country.
No definitely not, especially with the frequent HIV outbreaks! It's not about the money at all. It's about the person having a future. If you read the blog you will see that I would date a McDonald's employee. However, if you are 30 years old working behind the counter at M.D. and that's it, no school, no ambition, then NO! Come on now, a McDonald's salary (fry cook) can't support a family!
ReplyDeleteYou get free Big Mac's and McRib's everyday. I'm not encouraging anyone to settle for a bum. But maybe your outlook on life will rub off on them. I read the entire blog. Its really up to the individual. I would date a McDonald's employee. Realistically if our ambitions don't mesh and the chemistry isn't there, the prospects for another encounter are limited.
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